When our stress levels are high we’re more easily triggered to anger. We’re working more than we’d like, there are tensions at home, the bills are piling up, and we find our self waking up feeling burdened by the day ahead of us. Life is pushing us down and we lose touch with the ability to lift our self up and meet our day with some kind of inspiration.
In this scenario we feel frustrated, and a low level of resentment brews in the background of everything we do. Then, whenever something doesn’t go well or someone doesn’t treat us the way we think they should, anger comes up as our default response. We are triggered to anger by every little irritation and inconvenience, and we project out a black air wherever we go, thus inviting more irritations and anger on a continual basis.
When we’re in the midst of an angry or stressful period, we’re not able to see how we’ve locked our self into a corner, and we only see the pain of our angry and stressed state of mind. Finding balance seems impossible, because we’ve become submerged into a kind of tunnel vision where we can’t see our way clear; we can’t see that it’s possible to end the cycle of suffering.
The sad irony of being stressed and angry, and also the promising ‘good news’, is that regaining our balance is not as hard as we imagine it to be. A key missing factor, and an excellent place to start making change, is in how we relate to the stresses of life.
If we can shift from feeling burdened and victimized by our circumstances, to a more proactive and empowered approach, the difficulties we encounter along the way can become challenges rather than threats, opportunities for change rather than crisis’ of loss.
If we want better success in managing our anger, we have to make the choice to live our life with this constructive attitude. Feeling hard done by will only ever create stress, resentment, and further anger in our life, and if we don’t cut the pattern it might go on and on for years to come. Here’s encouraging you to stop looking down at the difficulties and problems in your life, and to start looking up to the possibilities for positive change.