If there are individuals in your life that you frequently get into conflicts with, practice walking away from those situations. Rather than continue in the same old way of getting into escalated conflicts, change the pattern by walking away. Then… Read the full post →

Look at conflict from the perspective of what you are doing to keep it running. What are you doing that is helping the conflict continue. What part are you playing? If you think you are just the innocent victim, look… Read the full post →

This is the first in a series of conflict resolution exercises. Read this introduction, and then go to the first exercise which follows this article. When we’re angry at someone we usually set them up as the enemy and we… Read the full post →

When you are ready, sit down with pen and notebook. You’re going to do some exploration and writing with the conflict to help you resolve it. Here’s what you do: Describe the conflict scenario in writing. Write down “I’m angry… Read the full post →

This time the writing has a change of focus and tone. What you do is just write down the basic facts of the anger situation: “I am angry because at work John has been stepping on my territory and taking… Read the full post →

Ask yourself this question: What function is your anger serving in this situation? What is it protecting? You are angry because something is happening that is threatening to you in some way. What is it that’s threatened? Is it your… Read the full post →

In Stage Three you identified how your integrity is being threatened. The next question is: How anger is hindering you in reestablishing that integrity? How is anger harming you in this situation? How is it taking away from your needs,… Read the full post →

What can you do to improve this situation? What can you do to protect yourself from harm, without perpetuating more anger and more suffering? In my example, when people interrupt me, rather than retreat into anger, I can choose to… Read the full post →