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Guilt, Blame, and Shame: Part 2
We continue now from last weeks post: Following is a process to help you explore where you are carrying guilt and blame, and then to let them go. This process is somewhat lengthy and may take an hour or more. It is set up in two parts so if you … Continue reading
Deliberately Calling Up Feelings of Anger
We can learn to better manage our anger by deliberately remembering an anger scenario and trying to call up the feelings of anger. Then we can practice working with those feelings in a more controlled context. Rather than simply being swept away by our anger, working with it consciously gives … Continue reading
Transitions Exercise: Sleeping and Waking
Paying attention to our state of mind throughout the day is a helpful anger management technique. By becoming more aware of our thoughts and emotions we learn to understand the patterns and energies that feed into our anger. The anger journal is especially helpful in this regard, In addition to … Continue reading
Opening Your Heart
Our issues with anger management, at the end of the day are issues of the heart. There are countless ways to approach the question of the heart, how it becomes obstructed, and different methods for resolving our issues. In this post we’ll take a very simple approach, that of opening … Continue reading
Non Violent Communication: The Power of Needs
According to the principles of Nonviolent Communication, when we experience anger it is because there is some basic need that is not being met*. It could be a need for being understood, a need to be received and respected, a need for integrity, a need for safety, etc. For example, … Continue reading
Anger Management While Walking Down the Street
Anger management can happen any time we experience anger. A common anger situation that often gets overlooked in anger management programs is in the simple act of walking down the street. How often do you experience anger when you walk along, passing by people of all kinds, people who for … Continue reading
Do What You Want to Do, ‘Really’ What you Want to Do
If you have anger management problems, it could be because you are living someone else’s life. Living your life ‘your’ way is not easy, because the norm is that we look outside ourself to learn what we are supposed to do. How many of us when we were young had … Continue reading
Working with Uncomfortable Feelings
Part of the picture with chronic anger management problems is that we have a deep habit of avoiding uncomfortable feelings. Life is unpredictable and ever changing, a rich mixture of pain and pleasure, success and failure, coming together and falling apart. We like to feel in control in order to … Continue reading
Breaking the Addiction of Anger
When we have habitual anger management problems, we are addicted to anger. At the slightest provocation or inconvenience our default response is anger; we just can’t help it, or so we think. We’ve lost control of our self and anger now dominates our personality, our life-force, and our freewill. This … Continue reading
Shower Exercise
This is an enjoyable and simple exercise you can do it while taking a shower.* Here’s what you do: Take a shower. While you are in the shower, feel the water as it bathes you skin. The idea is to use the sensation of the water to get in touch … Continue reading
